半年圆

Its 半年圆 tomorrow! Wow..time flies. We are in the middle of the year already. Not many people still follow the traditional customs of eating tang yuan on this day of the year anymore. I'm not sure myself if i will be following it myself in future. Thus i am recording this down in my blog for myself to remember when i look back. Watching ah ma making the tang yuans today makes me think back of my younger days where i would be super excited whenever this day comes. I would follow her and make some of my own special creations; A super big tang yuan or some weird weird figurines. She would still use this super old school metal plate to place the tang yuans and cook for us the next day. I hope for better health for her and we will have many more 半年圆 to come! :)

shopping spree~

Feeling abit loose on the purse strings recently and unknowingly went on a shopping spree. But are of them are real good deals. My manchester united jersey costs $72 only whereas outside is selling at $80-$99. My birks at $77 which is priced at $139 in the boutique. There's a 40% discount for my wallet thanks to Bryan :D and lastly..my new and nice watch costs me only $19! Next up...business wear...

When Mr Right comes at the wrong time

When Mr Right comes at the wrong time - Janice Wong, ST, 31 Jan 2005

Timing is everything, even in love. And when you are not ready to commit, you could end up regretting it
By Janice Wong

SOMETIMES, timing rather than love decides who we end up being with - or without.

Only some lucky people marry the loves of their lives. The rest marry the most suitable person who comes along when they are ready to settle down.

A friend in his 20s came to this conclusion after confiding in me that he had recently met a woman who is more attractive than his wife, and so occupies his thoughts more often than his wife does.

'If only I had met her before I got married,' he said wistfully.

But I think even if the love of one's life appears when one is single, one may not be in the right frame of mind to recognise him or her as such.

And then love passes by.

Life is littered with near misses and lost opportunities.

I attended my ex-boyfriend's wedding last month, which triggered many memories.

We met five years ago when I was 23 and he 31. It was love at first sight.

He had an established career, was down-to-earth and steadfastly religious.

I was then working as an air stewardess and my head was - literally and metaphorically - in the clouds.

I was also - well, let's put it this way - not religious.

Despite our differences, we were soulmates. We had the same quirky sense of humour and shared long, intense overnight conversations.

But human nature is perverse. When someone is excessively nice to us, we start taking things for granted, instead of appreciating them even more.

My ex sent me to the airport, fixed my PC, reminded me to take health supplements - and go to church.

He had everything I could want in a husband - except that I was not looking for one. A boyfriend was all I could cope with then.

I loved fast cars, danced wildly at Zouk and took off on shopping holidays at a whim. My life revolved around I, me and myself.

In the six months that we were together, he popped the question several times and talked ad nauseam about having children. He wanted us to enrol for a Christian marriage preparation course.

Yes, I did often fantasise about a Vera Wang wedding gown, but I was at that stage of my life when I was more interested in Guess than Baby Guess.

And where - dare I admit it? - I still wanted to meet other men.

So I was a 23-year-old with the emotional maturity of a 13-year-old. Responsibility? Wasn't that for adults?

In short, I met Mr Right at the wrong time.

The more he talked about marriage and religion, the more I felt pressured and the more pressured I felt, the more irritable I became.

I was too impatient to compromise. Every trivial matter blew up as a big deal. My mood obliterated the good in our relationship and reached a point where I just wanted out.

He was heartbroken; I was sad but relieved. He still called me regularly, beseeching me to change my mind.

The calls stopped finally after a year. Now and then, we say 'Hi' via e-mail.

I had a few painful relationships after that. Served me right, as those rude wake-up calls were necessary for me to realise the meaninglessness of my hedonistic high life.

I missed the tenderness of my ex and began having second thoughts.

Perhaps I also felt more urgency to find someone marriageable before my biological clock reached zero hour. It dawned on me that I am not a pixie like Peter Pan who can flit around forever. One day, I'd wake up sick and alone when my fair weather friends flit away.

But I was too proud and too unsure of my ex's reaction to call him until last year.

The first thing he told me excitedly was that he had found The One. My heart tumbled to my feet. So, that's Fate.

If only I could turn back time. If only I had met him later. If only... what feeble words.

These days, I am more circumspect. I have come to terms with my loss. There is nothing I can do about timing, but I can do everything about my choices.

Sometimes, when the nights get lonely, I toy with the idea of marrying a platonic friend of mine, who often assures me earnestly that, if the worst comes to the worst, he'd be willing to marry me.

But I always dismiss that. I have already made one mistake. I should not make another by settling for second best merely for the sake of getting hitched - only to regret it soon after, as the guy who confided in me did.

Hopefully, the best is not over but yet to be.

How many times has Mr/Ms Right come into your life, but at the wrong time?

如燕

Watched this brilliant show yesterday with my poly mates. Two words to describe this movie. Total "Mind Fuck!" There are so many possible interpretations of the story and so many question marks hanging on our heads when we leave the cinema. I guess it's the style of Christopher Nolan's films. He took ten years to write the script for this movie. Definitely the best movie i have watched this year for this genre. I don't remember if there is another film which was so mentally taxing. If you like it please go watch Memento as well by the same director. The way the story unfold is really marvelous.

Went for Olivia Ong's showcase at Temasek poly today with Robert and Weijie. We didn't expect to get seats near the front so we didn't bring our cameras along. BIG MISTAKE. We ended up seating at the 2nd row from the front with super GOOD view of her. She is tall, slender and really beautiful. You will be easily moved by her melodic and gentle voice. Its such a pleasure listening to her music. Listening to her live performance is akin to listening to her cd. She have a truly great voice. ahhhh i am smittened...

Video of her singing 如燕 acapella. Sorry about the tilted video..just listen to the voice. Wonderful.

loves

Some photos of the kids i work with at the weekend. They are really cute and never fails to brighten up my day! Don't worry i am not a pedophile i just happen to adore kids haha. Went to butter factory at night to celebrate tim's birthday. Damn high and its always fun to party with your friends. Haven clubbed much for a long time, and now there are even girls who approached and asked to join them for drinking at their table. So open!! zzzz Photos will be uploaded once charlize uploads them on facebook! :)

Journal Of Life

Something i felt really true and want to share with my friends as well. Extracted from http://bbreminisce.wordpress.com :)

Journal of Life ~ what makes a good relationship?

Whenever there’s a quarrel or argument between my friends and their partners, they would end up asking me this old fashion question of ‘What makes a good relationship?’

Most of the time, I just shrugged and said that I don’t really know.

‘You must be joking, you love your wife so much and you always give in a lot to her’
That’s what some general comments.
It would always end with ‘and you are spoiling her for all the goodness.’

“You are just looking one sided.” That’s what I always remind them.

There are many things which we won’t know in a relationship.

Every relationship has similarities and differences. One thing we know, a relationship begins with two persons with a common view but ends with one person having different views.

I treat my wife well not because I have to, it’s because I want to.
I spoilt her because of all the sacrifices that she made for me in order for us to be together.

It’s not easy for someone to travel and live in a foreign place so far away from her parents and relatives and had so little friends to count on when she needs the support.

I remembered there was once when we quarreled and she was so distress with herself. Not because of the quarrel but because there’s no other place for her to go to other than my room.

It’s not easy to suddenly move into my house and stayed with my parents and aunt. She had to endure their differences in personality, behavior and ways of living.

I sometimes asked my wife why are we together? I’m not handsome or rich. There are many things she longed and I can only owe her at this moment.

Perhaps it’s just plain simple, it’s because I treat her same ever since the day I know her. I would plan for all the major things in life and allow my shoulders for her to lie on.

I know couples who don’t talk much after their marriage. They would just lie down on their bed and kiss goodnight before turning their back to each other. I know couples who still behave like courtship and no one would know they already have kids.

Maybe the definition of a good relationship is just keeping the same feeling towards each other the moment you feel that he/she is the one for you. Not just having the same feeling but also showing the same affection and attention as the first moment the relationship started.

Remembering the times when the two of you went for a late night show and walked all the way home? Or waiting for her outside her office with a bunch of roses as she knocked off?

Being romantic is not asking you to do something that is done in the movies. To me, being romantic to your loved one is doing the things that you ever did for her/him and made her/him remembered until today.

It’s the littlest and simplest things which we think it is no longer needed to be done that spur a relationship to go on.

So what if you know each other for 20 years or married for 5 years?
Didn’t the two of you fell in love with each other because of the way you were treated?

Redo the things which you ever did for your love, she may find it a bit silly and perhaps she would tell you that it’s no need to.

Just tell her, “Honey, I haven’t changed since day one….”

This is Love, nothing strengthen a relationship like rekindling one.