Studying too much have got me going all theoretical these days. Today i'm gonna talk about cognitive dissonance. What is cognitive dissonance? The theory of cognitive dissonance proposes that people have a motivational drive to reduce dissonance by changing their attitudes, beliefs, and behaviours, or by justifying or rationalizing their attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors. Ok that is the wikipedia definition, in layman terms, it means the tendency to change your mindset because you have already give in alot (be it monetary or feelings) in something. Take for example, you buy a pair of levi. Its just like any other jeans in the market. But u tell yourself you love it and its the best because you paid a bomb for it. I was made known to this term by my best friend Levin.
Why cognitive dissonance? Why has it got me thinking? Because i realised i have been experiencing it all my life. Take yesterday for example, i bought myself a new pair of seinnheiser earphones. It's expensive..at least to me. And the more i use it, the more i felt it was damn good even though its only ok, passable. The same goes for relationships. Long term relationships. You put in so much years of your life into this one, all the efforts, all the sacrifices for this girl. But in truth, is she the one? or its just cognitive dissonance playing your mind?
I have a few friends who just broke up from long-term relationships recently (one of them was eight years). And people around are going "omg" "they were together like forever" But hey i think they are doing the right thing. They are brave to end it and not waste other people's time/life any longer. That's the right thing to do. So in a nutshell, remember, enjoy the little things. :)
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